I’m learning to complain, and it’s wonderful!
Growing up, I was taught that complaining was pointless, immoral, unvirtuous, and ineffective.
So whenever I dealt with government departments, bureaucracy, or businesses my attitude was to follow their advice or their systems and hope that things would work out.
Today I rang a government department to complain, and it only took two months and some clues from the universe to get me to that point.
Beat your breast
It turns out that complain literally means to beat your breast, which in turn is to openly display your sorrow, disappointment or other strong feeling.
It took me two months to really comprehend that I wasn’t at fault, that the system had failed and my family had been unfairly disadvantaged.
I didn’t need to have a solution, and I didn’t have to trust the system. My trust is in God, not in systems.
So I found a way to feel good in my complaint. I rang with the intention of sharing my story, of the incorrect information we had received and the efforts we had gone to on our end.
And the people I spoke to were wonderful. They fixed the problem within minutes and everything is now reinstated, back as it was two months ago.
Except that I’ve grown and changed and learned so much through this process. It’s helped me focus on money and really appreciate all that I have. It’s helped me let go of resistance to having, receiving, and spending money.
It’s helped me trust so much more, and it’s shown me that God hears our complaints as much as our prayers.
For me now a complaint is the opposite of holding in or hiding my disappointment or sorrow. A complaint means openly expressing my dissatisfaction, and it by no means negates trusting, feeling good, or focusing on the positive while I do it.
A complaint is a genuine and authentic expression of something unwanted. I don’t expect to do it often, but I won’t resist it anymore when it feels like the path of least resistance.
You might even say that complaint is part of an entreaty. Like the psalms, it specifies what is wrong and demands, or requests better with an air of expectation.
Complaint is like an empowered and purposeful expression of dissatisfaction. It presumes worthiness, faith, and trust that things are supposed to be better. And it looks forward with expectation to having everything made right, made new, and reinstated.