Having the attitude that “everything is perfect exactly as it is” feels good.
For melancholics in particular it may be an expression of providence: the knowledge that all things are working towards the good.
If all things are working towards the good, and we know it, then it follows that everything is perfect exactly as it is.
Not perfect in the sense that it is complete, but perfect in the sense that we are where we are meant to be, everything is as it is meant to be.
This isn’t a question of judgement or assessment, it’s about attitude and feeling.
If you have the attitude of recognising everything is perfect as it is, then you will feel that everything is perfect as it is.
And by contrast, if you don’t feel good, you must be thinking or believing that not everything is perfect.
We see this reflected in the story of the fall of man. Genesis tells us of everything God created “and God saw that it was good”.
Everything was good, and the first humans lived in paradise, right up until the moment they accepted the serpent’s contention that things were not perfect after all.
The first humans heeded the serpent’s doubt, and that was the cause of their fall.
False beliefs as choice
If we don’t feel good, then we must not be thinking that all is perfect as it is.
For years I sought to identify such thoughts and correct them. Talk myself out of my fears and worries and doubts.
But although it can be helpful to change such beliefs, it isn’t necessary to convince ourselves that they are false, or to try to work out the truth.
Otherwise there is potentially no end to all the little beliefs that would need correcting.
Instead we can view these bad-feeling thoughts not as the cause of our unhappiness but as reflections or elaborations of a bad-feeling focus.
For example, a depressed person can come up with many negative thoughts that match the feeling of depression and hopelessness.
These thoughts aren’t necessarily stored up in our heads, rather we uncover or create more and more of them to match our depressed focus.
Sometimes changing a belief or thought changes our focus as well, but it’s not always the most effective way to feel better.
By contrast a change in focus will always cause us to feel better (or worse depending on what we focus on).
It is possible to recognise that when we don’t feel good, we are harbouring an attitude of doubt or fear instead of an attitude that everything is perfect.
With practice we can actually change our focus from a bad feeling state to a good feeling one, without having to argue with or analyse or reprogram our thoughts.
In the Abraham Hicks material, thought and “vibration” are used interchangably. They might just as well have used the word “spirit” but that it is too loaded with preconceptions.
Our verbalised thoughts and beliefs are expressions or elaborations of the “vibration” we are focused on. We translate this vibration into thought, and it is further reflected in our feelings and then our external circumstances.
An analogy from the Abraham Hicks material is that of a radio dial that controls the frequency our radio is tuned to. If you change the frequency (vibration) you receive different signals (thoughts).
Learning to control our focus in this way is superior to trying to argue with ourselves or debate our thoughts in hopes of shifting that dial. You could petition a classical station to play more jazz, but it’s more effective just to turn the dial until you find a station where jazz is already playing.
Choosing to feel good
I initially struggled with the idea of ignoring things that feel bad, or getting off difficult subjects.
My negative feelings were heavy and persistent, so I assumed I needed something equally firm and concrete to dislodge them.
But feeling good is light and easy. You don’t need to dislodge or destroy bad feelings, just stop focusing on them and they’ll dissipate.
I’m coming around to the idea that I don’t need to prove to myself (or others) that everything is perfect as it is, because this attitude just feels really really good.
I don’t need to logically or even illogically convince myself that fears and doubts are unwarranted, because I’ve gradually accepted through experience that it feels much better to feel good than to feel bad, and it seems that I can choose to focus in ways that feel good rather than feeling bad.
So whatever issue seems to conflict with “everything is perfect exactly as it is” can be deactivated. I can simply focus back on perfection and ease in the same way that I can relax a tense muscle.
We are the ones who determine the contents of our own minds by virtue of what we focus upon. For most of us this is only a theoretical control, but with practice it can become actual.
The ideal is to be able to feel good, find relief, soothe ourselves by choosing where we focus, and thereby create a happier and more fulfilling reality for ourselves and become part of a happier and more fulfilling reality for others.