Course correction: negative emotion

My previous efforts with the Abraham-Hicks teachings have helped me a great deal. My mood is better, I’m more active in life, I feel less burdened by things that used to bother me.

My relationships have improved, my health has improved, and I feel better all round.

So why a course correction?

I’ve been feeling so much better that lately other, more difficult issues have risen to the surface. This is a good thing, but it demands a change in my approach.

Why is it a good thing?

The root causes of our problems are best not tackled directly until we are ready. It’s like removing a big tree: you first cut off the branches, then maybe cut off sections of the trunk, only when the branches and trunk are gone do you tackle the stump and the roots.

What are you now doing differently?

Up to now my A-H work has been based on effort – the effort of finding better-feeling thoughts, the effort of focusing on desires instead of fears, and the effort of going general or distracting myself.

This is okay, but making “work” out of it is ultimately unsustainable. The bottom line is that we already want to feel better, and it shouldn’t take a convoluted effort to get us there.

The upshot is that part of me has been feeling a whole lot worse than I was willing to acknowledge, and having “work” to do helped me escape and delay facing those negative feelings.

Again, that’s not bad. Giving myself that delay and reprieve allowed me to improve my life in numerous other ways. It’s a bit like needing to build your physical strength before undergoing a major surgery or treatment.

So what I’m now doing differently is acknowledging the negative emotions I previously tried to escape. This is hard, but I keep reminding myself these emotions are a form of contrast, and contrast means something good is coming. Or like a physical pain, the pain means your body is responding. Help is on the way.

This reminder is enough. Instead of running off looking for a way to “solve” these negative emotions, I’m letting them stand in acceptance of them, trusting that this contrast is concurrently informing desires and calling forth a genuinely improved way of being.

I may be feeling a whole lot worse, but at least it’s whole rather than fragmented.

Happiness Challenge Day 6

As we are working at feeling better, new ideas and emotions can come up.

We might have great sudden insights into problems that have plagued us. Or we might have painful incidents arise, reminding us of old problems or anxieties.

It’s tempting to pursue and try to wrestle with these ideas and emotions. But we have to remind ourselves that this is not our job.

Your job is to feel better

It’s never our efforts that bring great ideas, and it’s never our efforts that resolve painful issues and emotions.

Instead it’s by feeling better, intentionally giving ourselves feelings of relief and appreciation and contentment, that we make progress.

Bad feelings that crop up or new ideas that come to mind are just signs of the progress we are making.

So don’t get disheartened or distracted. Just feeling good is enough. It’s by feeling good that life will change, not by understanding insights or grappling with painful feelings.

Greater insights await, and negative emotions will have even less hold, as we progress in feeling good.