It’s a game…21!

Your inner being adores you, because you are the physical manifestation of its desire to experience time-space reality.

When you learn to love yourself in the same way you come into alignment with your inner being.

Your inner being also adores where you are, your physical circumstances. Because although it sees both the wanted and unwanted aspects of those circumstances, it focuses only on the wanted, and how these wanted aspects perfectly reflect your shared desires and preferences.

We can also learn to love our experience in the same way, if we focus more on appreciating the wanted and focus less on anything unwanted.

Just knowing that it is possible to adore where we are, helps us to find aspects of it to appreciate. Every little bit of appreciation helps, and as we practice appreciation we are allowing in more circumstances and experiences of a like nature.

This has always been implicit in the Abraham-Hicks teachings: find the feeling-place of what you desire. Feel good as if your desires were already right in front of you.

But it helps to know that even your present circumstances are overflowing with adorable aspects if you can just tune yourself into appreciating them.

Even things we take for granted are answers to our inner being’s desire to be here and experience this life: gravity that keeps everything on the ground, the air we breath, the light that illuminates our whole world, the earth beneath us and the sky above us.

There’s an abundance of things to appreciate and adore in every moment. And as we learn to see things this way, we come into alignment with our inner being and we release our resistance to the many other desired things and experiences flowing into our lives.

What are desires?

Bonus post!

In the Abraham-Hicks teachings preferences and desires are central.

The basic framework is “ask and it is given”:

1. Experience of contrast causes us to launch “rockets” of desire, consciously or not.

2. Source/inner being immediately expands to become a vibrational match to our desires.

3. We allow ourselves to keep up with the expansion of our inner being, and thereby become a match to our desires too.

Step 1 and 2 happen automatically and immediately. We can’t help but launch these rockets of desire and preference all the time, and our inner being becomes a match in that same moment.

From a vibrational standpoint our desire is already granted. But step 3 depends on us, our free will and control of our attention and focus.

If we focus in alignment with our inner being then we are a vibrational match and our physical reality will change to reflect our vibrational reality.

But if we focus out of alignment, this misalignment is reflected in our physical reality instead.

What A-H calls “the art of allowing” is learning to focus on things that feel good, stay in alignment, and therefore easily go with the expansion of our inner being.

What is desire?

Not that we need to know this, but it’s so cool I wanted to share it.

Recently I heard A-H describe in passing how brief most of our moments of alignment are before we throw ourselves into misalignment once more.

So brief in fact that they describe our desires as “rockets”; because desires are in fact moments of pure alignment.

Desire is a brief instance of alignment called forth and allowed by us in response to contrasting experience.

Desire is not yearning or need or hunger – it’s a moment of calling on our inner being with clarity and purpose in response to contrast. It could be so brief we don’t notice it, or it could be big enough that we begin calling on it more and more.

So it makes sense why step 1 and step 2 are so effortless and close together: the moment of asking is the moment of answering.

We wordlessly ask and the asking is itself an invocation of our inner being’s power – grace.

That is why desires feel so good! They are the crack in our resistance through which the light streams in.

But most of us turn away from that light and focus on the darkness. “How is this desire going to be fulfilled? How can I make it happen? It doesn’t seem very realistic! I’ve never heard of this kind of thing happening easily. I really wish it would happen! I need it to happen!”

We end up focused negatively on the subject rather than positively on the desire.

And yet the desire is already its own answer. Vibrationally the desire already feels good if we don’t squelch it wig resistant thoughts.

That is the art of allowing – to not squelch and stifle our good feeling thoughts and desires with bad feeling ones.

Doesn’t matter how “true” or “justified” those bad feeling thoughts feel. If you feel bad you are focused out of alignment and you cannot share in the joy and freedom and expansion of your inner being.

So if you can feel good about your desires, then do that. If you can’t, then find anything else to feel good about, or better, or less bad, or just relief.

You don’t ever need to focus on your desires because your inner being has already become them. You just need to find your way into alignment, and that’s the path of caring a out how you feel and finding a way to feel better.

It’s a game…15!

Just find feelings of relief.

The whole point of alignment is to see things the same way that your inner being sees them.

In that sense it’s incredibly simple. Your inner being sees both the wanted and unwanted in your experience but only ever focuses on the wanted.

If you could always focus on the wanted you too would feel good and your life would change for the better.

But if you’ve been feeling very bad for a long time it can be difficult to even imagine or find thoughts about the wanted aspects of life.

Look at my example: I struggled to genuinely feel good about things in my life, and it turned out my underlying thoughts were incredibly bleak – thoughts full of hate and resentment to life and opposition to my own existence!

It’s a bit like wanting to have more money, but also thinking money is the root of all evil and should be avoided. A bit of a conflict.

So you feel really bad, and you struggle to find positive or inspiring thoughts. The answer is to simply look for thoughts or things that bring a feeling of relief, and keep on allowing yourself to feel relief.

Relief is how it feels when you move in a more positive direction from a negative starting point. Relief will help you get from the most negative feelings of powerlessness gradually tending in the direction of contentment.

Relief is the feeling of just letting the current carry you.

Relief is always right and it always works.

It’s a relief to know that I create my reality.

It’s a relief to know that my inner being is pure positive energy.

It’s a relief to know that I don’t have to do anything or make any effort.

It’s a relief knowing that all my desires are fulfilled.

It’s a relief knowing that relief is always the answer.

It’s a game…14!

Turned a corner.

Post number 12 was very powerful for me.

By the end I’d realised there was a sense of discord within me that I had been projecting onto my reality, giving rise to more and more discordant situations and conditions.

Sitting with that sense of inner discord, I didn’t try to pick it apart but instead looked for relief, since every good idea or insight I’ve ever had has been received by me after feeling ease and relief.

Sure enough it soon came to me that the discord I feel is due to a conflict between my physical self and my inner being.

My inner being wants me to be here, living and enjoying life, creating my reality by finding alignment.

But for many years I, my physical self, just wanted it to be over. Conditions were once so unwanted that I decided there was no value taking part in life, and that resistance to my own existence here is the essence of my discord.

Things have changed. I’ve learned a lot. And most importantly I’ve learned that this resistance to existing here in physical reality doesn’t feel very good.

Abraham says that words don’t teach, experience teaches. Sure enough, the grindingly awful experience of profound discord has taught me that it would be nice to feel better. It would be nice to enjoy life for once. It would be nice to experience the kind of treasures I’ve been storing up “in heaven”.

It would be nice to experience life without discord, to feel congruity between my self and my reality.

And with that, I feel I’ve turned a corner.

It’s a game…11!

Imagine if you just found out you’d won $50 million dollars, and you went about your usual day not telling anyone, just feeling totally relieved at peace, excited and blissful.

People would notice and your day would be different, not because of the money but because you’d allowed yourself to feel good, using the money as an excuse to not care about anything else.

When Abraham-Hicks tells people to find the feeling-place of their desires, this is exactly what they mean. Because what we want is the feeling, first and foremost. But the feeling doesn’t come objectively from money or other conditions.

The feeling comes from allowing and alignment. Allowing yourself to align with your inner being, which is pure positive energy.

After all, if the money came like that your blissful feeling would not last. Your usual attitude would reassert itself. That’s why conditional happiness is so fragile and unattainable.

What we really need is to find the happiness that comes from alignment with your inner being. Because your inner being is the purely positive being that created your physical self, and sustains it always.

Your existence is not designed for conditional happiness. It’s designed to experience contrast, and launch new desires and preferences for the sake of your inner being’s expansion.

Why does the thought of winning so much money feel good? Not because of the money itself – you don’t have that yet – but because you are finally aligning with your inner being’s attitude of ease and freedom and power and possibility.

With that much money you would be free from most economic and many social constraints. A lifetime’s worth of unpleasant thoughts about study, work, income, effort and struggle would be immediately irrelevant. That is why it feels good! People would treat you differently and you would treat yourself differently, or so you imagine.

These imagined benefits are already your inner being’s experience. It has never taken on any burdensome thoughts nor denied itself any of the love and appreciation that are its essence.

Every desire and preference you have can be seen in terms of the good feeling it inspires: love, joy, freedom, expansion, belonging, authenticity; and the reason these feel good is that they are a match to your inner being already.

Your inner being never bought into the dismal world you accepted. That’s why you feels so bad, because it’s so far away from the reality your inner being – your Source, God, the greater part of you – inhabits.

Every time you allow yourself to feel relief, to feel less bad, to feel better – no matter what thought helps you feel it – you are coming more into alignment with your inner being and that is why it feels good.

Keep finding the sure path of relief relief relief, less bad less bad less bad, better better better, and one day it will be good good good. Relief is the path that will take you fully into alignment if you practice it.

It’s a game…10!

When I used to read fantasy books as a kid I’d imagine myself in one of those worlds and invariably I’d end up wanting to be a magician or a sorcerer or wizard.

Not just because they were the most powerful…but because their power implied a complete understanding of how reality really works.

Recently it dawned on me that this is what I really want, and what I am looking for in the Abraham-Hicks material.

While I want abundant wealth and a beautiful home and good relationships and health, what I truly desire is to understand and master my relationship with reality itself.

For a long time I’ve felt there’s something “off” in my relationship with reality. Something I wasn’t understanding or something I’d misunderstood.

In A-H terms I’ve learned that it’s really a three-way relationship: my physical self, my inner being, and reality.

I want to heal this relationship. Along the way I’ve learned that my physical self is the creation of my inner being. I exist as a point of focus for experiencing physical reality, but the greater part of me is non-physical.

I’ve also learned that reality reflects the vibrational point of attraction for both my inner being and my physical self.

My inner being is always positive. It’s a vibrational match for all my desires and preferences, and while it is aware of my whole experience it never focuses on the unwanted or negative aspects.

When my physical self and my inner being are aligned in their focus I experience this alignment in the form of good feeling emotions. But when my physical self focuses towards unwanted or negative things it becomes misaligned with my inner being and I experience that misalignment as negative emotion.

So while my inner being is always attracting pleasing, satisfying, desirable conditions to itself, my physical self has the potential to attract unpleasant, unwanted, undesirable conditions. My reality is the culmination of these elements.

What I really desire is to have clarity in this relationship with my inner being and reality, to truly understand what works and what doesn’t. I want to be clear and knowing in myself at every moment whether I am allowing my inner being to dominate, or resisting it with misaligned focus.

While people avow having changed their lives for the better using the A-H teachings, for me a change for the better entails the repair, restoration, and satisfying mastery of this relationship at the core of my existence.

It’s a game…09!

I love knowing that happiness is a vibrational game. I love knowing that finding relief always works and is always the way forward no matter what.

I love the feeling of letting go of problems and resistance. I’m so glad to have learned that it’s okay just to sidestep or bypass difficulties – and that’s what letting go means!

I love finding that my difficult moral/character expectations are irrelevant and unnecessary.

I love the relief of just letting go of cares and worries and trusting in my inner being to take care of everything.

I love knowing that my physical self is the focal point of my inner being, that I am created and manifested by my inner being, who focuses only on the wanted aspects of my reality.

I love knowing that I am perfectly created in the eyes of my inner being, that my inner being is the predominant creative power of my reality, and that I only need to allow and receive its creation.

I love knowing that I am already fulfilling my purpose in life, that I have always been fulfilling my purpose in being a focal point for the launching of preferences and desires for the expansion of my inner being and all that is.

I love knowing that my inner being is a match to all my desires, that it has already expanded to embrace those new vibrations, and that it is drawing those desires into physical manifestation.

I love knowing that I couldn’t stop those manifestations even if I wanted to. I love knowing their inevitability and sureness. I love knowing that as I let go and allow and receive, my resistance ceases and my reality immediately changes course as I align with my inner being.

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The better version of yourself.

Your inner being is the expanded version of you, the part of you that said “yes” to life’s call every time and didn’t hang back in fear, anger, or resentment.

We all value our identity and even a depressed and stressed identity is precious to us – that’s why it persists despite the great variety life throws our way.

Even feeling miserable is an effort and an accomplishment.

We want to be happier and enjoy life more but do we acknowledge that this means to some extent becoming a different person?

Our habitual reactions and attitudes and thoughts are what keep us as we are. Our inner being always takes the most positive perspective in line with our desires, so by definition there is a discrepancy between our response and the response of our inner being.

How many times in life have you gone with something despite your fears and nerves and felt so much better after the fact?

That’s you keeping up with your inner being.

How many times have you said “no” to life, or dwelt on a negative feeling just because it’s familiar?

That’s what resistance and misalignment feels like.

Catching up with you

We feel the pull of this happier, easier, more loving and more trusting version of ourselves for whom (we somehow know) everything works out better.

Your inner being is a match to all your desires. It resides in joy and appreciation of things you haven’t yet seen, and of things you see but take for granted.

It doesn’t join you ever in a single bad-feeling thought, memory, or idea.

So catching up with your inner being really could feel like playing the part of a different person. It really might feel like pretending. But if it’s guided by your personal sense of happiness and desires, it’s a pretence in the direction of you, and of everything you truly want to be.

Pretend; pretend you’re already standing amidst the fulfilment of all your desires. Pretend you’re already feeling the ease and flow and trust of the person your inner being has become. Pretend to be what life has been calling you to be.

Because pretending is nothing more than stretching out, reaching toward something. Seek and you shall find. Imitate what you have already become, deep inside.

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Your inner being is adoring where you are right now.

But how do you feel about it?

Alignment means lining up your perspective with the perspective of your inner being…who always adores where you are.

Abraham-Hicks talks about this as “the relationship between you and You”, closing the gap between yourself and your inner being.

Why close the gap? Especially when you may have lots of reasons to not like where you are.

Close the gap because your inner being is who your really are. It’s the greater part of you, and it has never lost or forgotten it’s connection with God/Source.

Your inner being is where your power is, where your desires are complete, and where your happiness flows effortlessly.

Your inner being is the expanded version of you, and if you line up with it, you will no longer be resisting your own desires.

Surrender to God’s will

In traditional terms this is all about surrender to God’s will. But the emphasis on loving and appreciating and adoring where you are makes it clearer than ever.

God’s will sounds very abstract and ethereal. And even saying that God adores where you are right now and wants you to do the same gets my hackles up.

That’s why Abraham-Hicks doesn’t use traditional terminology. Much clearer to say that your inner being adores where you are, and if you could find a way to align with it by feeling better about where you are, then you will enjoy the love and appreciation, the power and energy of your inner being in this lifetime.

Close the gap…but not too much

There is always going to be a gap between your vibration and that of your inner being. When the gap is wide we feel bad. So in order to feel better we must close the gap.

That’s why we find better-feeling thoughts. Each better-feeling thought is vibrationally closer to the joy and love and appreciation our inner being (God) already enjoys.

But the gap is not a bad thing. The gap – and the contrast it brings – is why we are here. It’s only because of the gap that we can form new preferences and desires and allow expansion.

Sometimes we try too hard to close the gap or we think there shouldn’t be a gap, shouldn’t be any contrast in life. These efforts to eliminate the gap do not bring happiness, nor can they succeed.

The gap is important and necessary, it only feels bad because we are looking at it the wrong way. From God’s perspective this gap is of tremendous value. And if we can learn to appreciate it as well then it can become a source of eagerness and joy rather than fear and incompleteness.

Learning to love contrast because contrast is the foretaste of new expansion; learning to appreciate the gap because the gap is what this life is all about; this is the way to true happiness, happiness in the path and the journey, not happiness conditional on outcomes and circumstances.