In my previous post I wrote:
At the heart of the Abraham Hicks material is the observation that whatever we desire, we desire it because we think we will feel better when we have it. But it is not having things that makes us feel better, it is alignment with our own inner being, God’s presence within us.
I wanted to follow this idea in a slightly different direction.
We desire things in this world because we think having them will make us feel better.
But what actually makes us feel better is having thoughts that are aligned with our inner being.
So does our inner being think that having what we desire will make us feel better?
Not the right question?
I think the answer is that this is not quite the right question.
Abraham teaches that whenever we encounter something unwanted, we launch a desire. In that moment our inner being expands to become that newly launched desire.
For example, if I’m hungry but there’s nothing to eat in the fridge then my noticing of that unwanted condition launches a desire for food, based on my thought that I will feel better if that condition arises.
But in that moment my inner being already expands into that better feeling. My inner being already feels like it’s eating delicious food and feeling satisfaction and enjoyment.
I, however, still have a choice of whether to go with my inner being and share that feeling of enjoyment and satisfaction, or keep thinking about the condition of the empty fridge which leaves me feeling dissatisfied and disappointed.
That dissatisfaction and disappointment exists because in the moment I noticed the empty fridge my desire was launched and my inner being went with it, but I did not.
That’s the whole point!
You might be thinking “but the fridge really is empty…” and that may be true for now…or it may not. I might have missed something!
We are encouraged to be realistic and look at what is really there in front of us.
But something else that is really here in front of us is our ability to feel good right now without waiting for the condition to change.
Is it unrealistic to feel satisfaction and enjoyment when we have the power and the desire to do so?
Isn’t it a real ability to feel good without waiting for external conditions to change?
If imagining food can feel just as good as actually eating food (sometimes better!) then it’s an entirely realistic option.
This is how you create your reality
Quite apart from what is in the fridge, there is a world of difference between the me who feels disappointed that there’s nothing to eat, and the me who feels enjoyment and satisfaction by keeping up with my inner being as it expands into the desire.
My observation is that small children are happy because they haven’t yet learned to focus so tenaciously on unwanted things. I was reminded of this yesterday when I was discussing birthday cakes with my son. I baked his cake last year and tried to make it look like a Minecraft sword.
I was heartily disappointed with the outcome, but he loved it, and when I mentioned it yesterday his eyes lit up and, oblivious to my negativity, he praised it with enthusiasm.
He hadn’t learned to compare it to the professional designs online and criticise the wobbly edges or the dull colour of the icing. He went with his inner being on that one.
Jesus said “whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
I’ve looked for good interpretations or explanations of that line. The best explanation I’ve found is the one described above, thanks to the Abraham Hicks material.
We are meant to go with our inner being. We are meant to feel good. We are meant to create a better-feeling reality.
And in our focus on unwanted conditions we have no idea what is possible. Whether you look at it on the level of psychology and expectations or on the level of miracles and providence, what we think, believe, and subsequently feel is of greatest importance in the conditions of the world that follow.
So to answer the question…
In the spirit of expansion and ever-more-answers: no, our inner being does not think that feeling better will come from having what we desire.
Not that it would disagree, but that the question would not occur because our inner being always feels good, and it knows that we can feel good too the moment we join its good-feeling perspective.
I like to think of the inner being as a dear friend or loved one who is always feeling good, and when you’re with them you feel good too. So long as you stay with that beloved person you are happy.
But there’s a problem: this friend of yours is always racing ahead joyfully into every opportunity that comes along, whereas you tend to grow cautious and resistant at unfamiliar situations. You want to stop and weigh the pros and cons and give yourself time to think about it.
When you do that, you’ve forgotten that you are happiest when you are together with your friend, and really nothing else matters.
You would be happier to forget your worries and just stay with your friend wherever they go, rather than dithering and delaying and always lagging behind.
That’s the kind of relationship we have with our inner being. We have a desire for some new condition, and our inner being races ahead into appreciation of that condition. But we hold back, thinking we need the condition before we can feel appreciation and joy and all those good feelings.
So, no, our inner being doesn’t join us in thinking that the conditions we desire will make us feel better, because our inner being always feels good, it always immediately expands to embrace our desires, and it never shares our misguided and ill-feeling attention to what is unwanted or missing from our experience.
Therefore, we can find alignment with our inner being on this subject if we stop looking to our conditions to make us feel better. Our desires will keep arising, and our inner being will keep expanding; it’s up to us to keep up with it, staying aligned with that wellspring of love, joy, and appreciation.