Aquinas took from Aristotle a cool view of the emotions…
Basically the underlying emotion (or ‘passion’ because they can be viewed as external objects causing us to have a ‘passive’ response or undergo change…like the ‘patient’ who suffers…)
The underlying emotion is love which is our natural response to things that appear good (or are good).
Which is pretty cool, because it means love is the root of all our responses to our experience.
So it goes something like:
I perceive something good in the distance -> desire (distance can be time or space.)
I perceive something evil/bad in the distance -> fear
I attain the good thing -> joy
The bad thing arrives -> sorrow
— I think about getting rid of the bad thing -> anger
How I feel about good things finally -> I love them
How I feel about bad things finally – > I hate them
I think good things are attainable/ bad things can be overcome -> hope
I think good things are unattainable/bad things can’t be overcome -> despair
Pretty cool, huh?
All of these passions/emotions have an effect on our minds and our bodies, because we are psychosomatic beings.
The old system was a bit vitalist, so they would talk about heat and life in your body.
Eg. when you feel love the heat expands in your body. Love is expansive, and makes you actually feel warm. Fear makes your heat retract inward, which is why you may feel cold when afraid. In anger the heat rises up into the head. Sorrow is the worst because your heat shrinks right back inside and you feel lifeless and awful.
These passions have corresponding facial expressions. They effect your posture, your gait, your movements, and your face. That’s how people can learn to read “body language”.
So let’s say you feel happy. You’re experiencing joy, and your face shows it. You’re beaming joy naturally without any effort.
But then someone shouts at you “what the hell are you grinning at, you look like an idiot!”.
Being yelled at is scary, being told you look like an idiot is bad. These produce feelings of sorrow and fear, which change your expression immediately. But you might also be confused, not sure why they are saying these things, not sure why your joyful feeling would cause a bad reaction in them.
You might also feel anger, and your expression changes again.
That’s still fairly natural. Your face is responding automatically to the emotion you are feeling.
But what if someone yells at you enough times that you realise your automatic expressions are going to get you into trouble again and again? Then maybe you decide that you should hide your joy, or your anger, or fear, or whatever it is you think will get you into trouble. You become afraid to express your feelings naturally in your expression.
But the only way to stop your face from automatically expressing is to give it a different task to do. So you practice holding a facial expression, or you stay really mindful of what emotion you might be feeling, ready to dampen it down with “serious face” or “polite face” or “happy face”.
The problem is that these faces are not natural. they aren’t expressing your authentic emotion. Instead they are expressing a complicated internal conflict, based on a fear of how people will react to you.
Holding that kind of tension in your face, and monitoring your expression, is very taxing and stressful. It sucks. It’s inauthentic.
I think Melancholics are especially prone to this because we do have strong emotions that are often out of sync with the people around us.
People might think you’re sitting grinning at nothing, when you’re reliving a past experience in your mind. Get told off enough times…get told it’s disrespectful or that you look like there’s something wrong with you, and yes you probably will internalise that message and learn to inhibit your natural expressions.
The way out of it is not easy, because you need to actively resist the impulse to control your expression. It takes more effort to overcome this effort-laden habit, but the effort has to be careful and light.
You might need to relearn intentionally how to let your face express your feelings automatically without fear of other people’s negative reactions.
One place to start is noticing that there is actual muscle tension in your face at this very moment. The weird, constant feelings of tension or tightness aren’t imaginary, they’re caused by tight muscles reacting to your fear of having the “wrong” expression.
If you can be aware of that tension as something the muscles of your face and head are actively doing, then that may help you ease off the tension a little.
It’s not just facial muscles, but also the muscles that control the eyes and the eyelids. Looking at the individual muscles of the head and face might help you understand the strain you’re creating in trying to keep your face unresponsive to your natural internal impulses.