Happiness Day 21


One of the basic tools in the Abraham-Hicks arsenal is pivoting.

Pivoting means abruptly changing your emotional direction when you find yourself in an unwanted feeling place.

Are you feeling anxious? Find words that feel like the opposite of anxiety and reach for thoughts and feelings that match it.

Words like calm, ease, peace, tranquility, clarity, certainty, confidence, optimism, belief, trust, knowing, obviousness.

Obviousness? Yeah, you know: when things are just so obvious that you feel relief and comfort and reassurance.

The words themselves are just markers for a feeling. So you can even make up words if that feels good to you.

And picking unexpected words can help us pivot more effectively.

You wouldn’t think “obviousness” was the opposite of anxiety, but if it helps you pivot then it’s perfect. If not, try something else.

Pivoting is a great practice because as soon as you notice yourself feeling bad you can immediately turn it around by finding the opposite feeling.

Before I learned about pivoting I would focus more and more on the bad feeling, asking why I felt that way and trying to get to the bottom of it.

But there is no bottom. Focusing on bad feelings just keeps us feeling bad, while the solution could be just as simple and easy as finding the opposite.

Happiness Challenge Day 6

As we are working at feeling better, new ideas and emotions can come up.

We might have great sudden insights into problems that have plagued us. Or we might have painful incidents arise, reminding us of old problems or anxieties.

It’s tempting to pursue and try to wrestle with these ideas and emotions. But we have to remind ourselves that this is not our job.

Your job is to feel better

It’s never our efforts that bring great ideas, and it’s never our efforts that resolve painful issues and emotions.

Instead it’s by feeling better, intentionally giving ourselves feelings of relief and appreciation and contentment, that we make progress.

Bad feelings that crop up or new ideas that come to mind are just signs of the progress we are making.

So don’t get disheartened or distracted. Just feeling good is enough. It’s by feeling good that life will change, not by understanding insights or grappling with painful feelings.

Greater insights await, and negative emotions will have even less hold, as we progress in feeling good.