In the Abraham-Hicks teachings preferences and desires are central.
The basic framework is “ask and it is given”:
1. Experience of contrast causes us to launch “rockets” of desire, consciously or not.
2. Source/inner being immediately expands to become a vibrational match to our desires.
3. We allow ourselves to keep up with the expansion of our inner being, and thereby become a match to our desires too.
Step 1 and 2 happen automatically and immediately. We can’t help but launch these rockets of desire and preference all the time, and our inner being becomes a match in that same moment.
From a vibrational standpoint our desire is already granted. But step 3 depends on us, our free will and control of our attention and focus.
If we focus in alignment with our inner being then we are a vibrational match and our physical reality will change to reflect our vibrational reality.
But if we focus out of alignment, this misalignment is reflected in our physical reality instead.
What A-H calls “the art of allowing” is learning to focus on things that feel good, stay in alignment, and therefore easily go with the expansion of our inner being.
What is desire?
Not that we need to know this, but it’s so cool I wanted to share it.
Recently I heard A-H describe in passing how brief most of our moments of alignment are before we throw ourselves into misalignment once more.
So brief in fact that they describe our desires as “rockets”; because desires are in fact moments of pure alignment.
Desire is a brief instance of alignment called forth and allowed by us in response to contrasting experience.
Desire is not yearning or need or hunger – it’s a moment of calling on our inner being with clarity and purpose in response to contrast. It could be so brief we don’t notice it, or it could be big enough that we begin calling on it more and more.
So it makes sense why step 1 and step 2 are so effortless and close together: the moment of asking is the moment of answering.
We wordlessly ask and the asking is itself an invocation of our inner being’s power – grace.
That is why desires feel so good! They are the crack in our resistance through which the light streams in.
But most of us turn away from that light and focus on the darkness. “How is this desire going to be fulfilled? How can I make it happen? It doesn’t seem very realistic! I’ve never heard of this kind of thing happening easily. I really wish it would happen! I need it to happen!”
We end up focused negatively on the subject rather than positively on the desire.
And yet the desire is already its own answer. Vibrationally the desire already feels good if we don’t squelch it wig resistant thoughts.
That is the art of allowing – to not squelch and stifle our good feeling thoughts and desires with bad feeling ones.
Doesn’t matter how “true” or “justified” those bad feeling thoughts feel. If you feel bad you are focused out of alignment and you cannot share in the joy and freedom and expansion of your inner being.
So if you can feel good about your desires, then do that. If you can’t, then find anything else to feel good about, or better, or less bad, or just relief.
You don’t ever need to focus on your desires because your inner being has already become them. You just need to find your way into alignment, and that’s the path of caring a out how you feel and finding a way to feel better.