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The nature of life is not suffering
To feel is to fully live
Feelings as the movement of the will
The silence between stories
Living the continuous moment
Are “bad” feelings bad?
Keep busy to avoid your feelings
Looking for something sacred
Why feel your feelings?
Light in the dark: pure awareness and feeling your feelings
Pure awareness is for happiness
A perfect circle of inspiration and trust
Truly authentic action
Preoccupied by trauma
Pure awareness vs being eaten by a tiger
A radish-inspired mini-practice
A radish-inspired spiritual practice
Wu wei and mental actions
Ultimatum
Law of Attraction: how reality should be
A Complex-PTSD proposal
LoA and stuff that feels good
Desire vs Law of Attraction
You are God
Rethinking my writing career
Everything in its own time
Childhood attachment and the Law of Attraction
Rethinking Christ at Easter-time
What makes law of attraction so hard to learn?
Spiritual happiness and the law of attraction
Choosing to appreciate myself
Do other people create your reality?
Law of Attraction: habitual feelings of lack
Causality and Law of Attraction
When the search ends
Finding true happiness
God and Law of attraction
Daoism and Law of Attraction
Gaslighting: a philosophical take
Letting go of problems and embracing a new paradigm
How to relax completely
Outgrowing dissociation
Emotional flashbacks and Law of Attraction
Why I hate writing
Wu Wei and Law of Attraction
The Iceman, shallow breathing, and the freeze response
Do your thoughts create your reality?
Making people happy
Evolving spiritual beliefs
How does trauma change personality?
Defining verbal abuse
Flow State for Swordsmen
In the zone: autotelic/flow states for anxiety and depression
Flying dragon in the heavens
A conceptual framework for Complex Trauma
12 signs you might be suffering from C-PTSD
Why is verbal abuse so harmful?
What is CPTSD?
Body image and verbal abuse
How hungry is your ideal body?
Finding your innate happiness
A brutally honest diet post
Feeling good amidst the pandemic
Diet and exercise – the anxiety connection
Did rethinking dinner help?
The meaning of dinner
Changing your body
Why write?
Diet in a time of Coronavirus
Food as fuel
What is the appeal of ice-cream?
Food, fat, and finding inner peace
Don’t try to lose weight
More resistance to meditation
Finding motivation
Weight loss: Time to get serious
Being overweight is hard work
Weight loss: connecting the dots
Exercise for pleasure and distraction
Your thoughts create your reality, so…
When failure is not a setback
Just-a-taste strategy
Finding the flow
Addiction as self-medication
When do you “need” to eat?
What does it mean to be rich?
Do you need to eat to feel better?
What motivates your diet?
Dieting: be strict or be honest?
Escape by eating
Eating is about context
Hungry, tired, or just lacking stimulation?
Fasting mindfully
The power of refusing food
Dealing with cravings
Revisiting my approach to diet
Abraham Hicks and Aristotle
Count Your Blessings?
Triggered by ignorance
Expressing dominance
Under the influence
Who are you doing your best for?
F***ing meditation!
Anxious to please
Living in the flow
Am I religious?
His God is a douchebag
I’m choosing to feel good
It’s a really nice day today
The resistance is in me and you
It’s a game…23!
Bonus post: don’t forget relief!
It’s a game…22!
It’s a game…21!
Freedom from desires
It’s a game…20!
It’s a game…19!
It’s a game…18!
It’s a game…17!
It’s a game…16!
What are desires?
It’s a game…15!
It’s a game…14!
It’s a game…13!
It’s a game…12!
It’s a game…11!
It’s a game…10!
It’s a game…09!
It’s a game…08!
It’s a game…07!
It’s a game…06!
It’s a game…05!
It’s a game…04!
It’s a game…03!
Hold that thought! A vibrational shift
It’s a game…02!
It’s a game…01!
Practicing happiness 30
Practicing happiness 29
Practicing happiness 28
Practicing happiness 27
Practicing happiness 26
Practicing happiness 25
Self-inflicted spiritual damage
Practicing happiness 24
Practicing happiness 23
Practicing happiness 22
Practicing happiness 21
The hidden cost of suppressing anger
Feeling better: certainty at last
Practicing happiness 20
Practicing happiness 19
Practicing happiness 18
Practicing happiness 17
Practicing happiness 16
Practicing happiness 15
Practicing happiness 14
Practicing happiness 13
Practicing happiness 12
Practicing happiness 11
Practicing happiness 10
Practicing happiness 09
Practicing happiness 08
Practicing happiness 07
Practicing happiness 06
Unresolvable problems: the paradox of disorganised attachment
Feeling better: the smallest possible improvement
Practicing happiness 05
Practicing happiness 04
Practicing happiness 03
Are you searching for coherence?
Practicing happiness 02
Practicing happiness day 01
What is self-esteem?
Course correction: negative emotion
Accept where you are
What are feelings anyway?
Meta-beliefs: is the game of life worth playing?
Your interpersonal self
Pleasing others, denying ourselves
Facing tough contrast
Close the gap…but not too much
Writing your life: handling contrast
Feeling good is enlightenment
Life is meant to be fun
The Matrix 20 years later: a personal reflection
Pushing against boredom
Do others need to change?
Inspiration, expectation, validation
It’s not about answers
Born in the wrong era?
Inspiration, emergencies and ease
Letting go 10: Insecurity
Letting go 09: when spiritual struggle is an obstacle
Letting go 08: making the emotional connection
Climate children: encouraging idealism without fear and anger
Letting go 07: inspiration only?
Letting go 06: open to inspiration
Letting go 05: What is reality, really?
Letting go 04: Metaphysics? It’s the vibe!
Letting go 03: problem-minded
Seeking solace and fulfilment
Criminalising cowardice: the ethics of school shootings
Letting go day 02: detachment
Manifestations just aren’t that important
Letting go of ‘impossible’
Letting go day 01
Way of the Screaming Baby
Thoughts, Feelings, and Manifestations part 2
Francis de Sales: progress in perfection
Going up a level
Thoughts, feelings, and manifestations
The suburbs don’t depress me…
One final answer
MCU Temperament Battle: Tony Stark vs Thanos
Remember to let go
Temperament Project 05: Why Does Temperament Matter?
Making “ordinary” beautiful
Instantly change your reality
Your reality maps your inner world
Temperament Project 04: Excitability and Duration of Impression
From anxiety to eagerness
From relief to appreciation
Temperament Project 03: Heat and Moisture
Take it for granted?
Rumi: Be lost in the call
Life without anxiety
Temperament Project 02: the Four Temperaments at a Glance
What I always wanted
Why does letting go feel so good?
Temperament Project 01: Getting Started
What is more real?
Going beyond answers
Learning to meditate
Letting go: hyper vigilance
Love is not earned
What if home were magic?
In the receptive mode
Seeing the best in others
Remembering ease
Accepting love without earning it
The excitement of contrast
Other people’s bad moods
Awakening to your higher self
Learning to complain
Laozi: the only motion is returning
Waking up happy
Han Shan: the road to Cold Mountain
God in all things
I remember
Inspired or desperate?
Kabir: seen without sight
Believe without seeing
Trust is enough
Against convention: rethinking choice and desire
Letting go: going downstream
Laozi: subtracting day by day
Trust: change of heart
You don’t “have to”!
Israel Folau: seeing the good
Letting go: tension
Love yourself
Laozi: the usefulness of what is not
Feel good all over
Glasses, and a smile
Feel good all day 15
You don’t have to do it on your own
Hafiz: School of Truth
Feel good all day 14
Hafiz: I have learned so much
What is allowing?
I only deserve good things
Inner citadel of the Self
Hafiz: I know the way you can get
Feel good all day 13
Kabir: He Himself
Feel good all day 12
Feel good all day 11
Inspired Feeling for INFP-Melancholics
“Shouldn’t you be doing something?”
Kabir: The Thirsty Fish
Feel good all day 10
Can everyday life be joyful?
Is ‘Avengers’ America’s Iliad?
Feel good all day 9
Feel good all day 8
I don’t feel depressed anymore
The power of inspiration
Feel good all day 7
Being whole in power: feeling good in Chinese philosophy
Feel good all day 6
Feel good all day 5
Aren’t we all a bunch of snowflakes?
Writing as spiritual discipline
Feel good all day 4
Easing difficult conversations
I want vitality
Feel good all day 3
Breaking all the rules
Does your happiness seem far away?
Feel good all day 2
Tempting fate
Divided minds
Trains of thought
Feel good all day 1
Missing my happiness
Believe that you have received it
Happiness Day 30
Happiness Day 29
Happiness Day 28
What is the vortex?
Writing for fun, profit…and a desperate need for approval?
Happiness Day 27
Count Your Blessings Day 10
The Batman article we deserve
Happiness Day 26
International Batman Day!?
Count Your Blessings Day 9
Happiness Day 25
Count Your Blessings Day 8
That art thou
Happiness Day 24
Temperament and introversion vs feeling good
Count Your Blessings Day 7
Happiness Day 23
Count Your Blessings Day 6
Happiness Day 22
Doing the dishes…happily?
Count Your Blessings Day 5
Happiness Day 21
INFP-Melancholics and the Excitement Question
Happiness Day 20
Count Your Blessings Day 4
Count Your Blessings Day 3
The feeling of freedom
Happiness Day 19
Happiness Day 18
Count Your Blessings Day 2
Happiness Day 17
Count Your Blessings Day 1
The garden within you
Happiness Day 16
Happiness Day 15
Happiness Day 14
Happiness Day 13
Redirect your attention
Is happiness challenging?
Happiness Challenge Day 11
Happiness Challenge Day 10
Happiness Challenge Day 9
Learning to let go: lessons from a 1yo baby
Happiness Challenge Day 8
Happiness Challenge Day 7
Happiness Challenge Day 6
The Way of abundance
When I found God
Happiness Challenge Day 5
Killing the Buddha
Happiness Challenge Day 4
Happiness Challenge Day 3
Happiness Challenge Day 2
The Happiness Challenge
Will comparative religion save the world?
Turning disappointment into eagerness
Allow yourself to feel good
Dissatisfaction is a sign
How does “positive thinking” actually work?
To feel as good as possible
Be the person you want to be
Raising happy children
Love, and the kingdom of God
Writing from my couch
Empty your cup
Repentance for the disenchanted
Is there ‘more’ to life than enjoying it?
The promise of feeling good
The things I learned on my spiritual quest
Temperament theory: does 5 = 4+1?
Stop doing that thing you keep doing
Keeping up with alignment
The Emotional Guidance Scale
Are you living your purpose?
The Thinking trap for INFPs (Melancholic-Phlegmatic)
Choosing how we feel
Everything is perfect as it is
Revisiting ‘Awareness’ by Anthony De Mello
Life is here to be enjoyed
Rethinking a spiritual quest
Thus spake Jordan Peterson
Truth or happiness?
When can I start enjoying life?
Drafting a book on the four temperaments
Rethinking detachment
Introverted Sanguines and Extroverted Phlegmatics: the confusing middle-ground
On reading omens part 2
On reading omens
In search of authentic self-expression
Attuning to God’s presence
Faith and heresy for Thinkers and Feelers
Weight loss and happiness
Why explaining myself makes my ankle hurt
From “never enough” to “always more”
Getting into alignment
Feeling like a different person
Action and Distraction
Can you be too positive?
The path of happiness
A Spiritual Reality
Pride and humility for melancholics
How the internet is driving the fractionalisation of society
The Lamp of the Body is the Eye
What do you really want?
Going with the flow
God in our innermost being: Mundaka Upanishad
Distilling the search for God
The more I think, the less I feel
Bad Cholerics in the Catholic hierarchy
Retrospective on a spiritual journey
Is it time to consider the lily?
Parenting advice from a low-energy father
What is introverted Thinking (Ti)?
Why people can’t describe introverted Feeling
How does Fi work (in an INFP/Melancholic)?
The benefits of getting sick
The importance of looking within
Positive thinking for INFP/Melancholics
Fixing a melancholic
Choleric Villains: a Kung Fu Panda case study
Stages of positive thinking
Mindfulness for people who hate mindfulness
How positive thinking works
A diet for the mind
Ghost in the Shell: what is it really about?
Why you should watch Cobra Kai instead of The Last Jedi
Learning to feel better
Seriously, anxiety?
What is reality, really?
Practicing (un)Happiness
Ghost in the Shell: what makes sci-fi immersive?
Is it okay to be happy?
How to unlearn conditional happiness
“If you want to make God laugh…”
Fear of getting it wrong
Abiding insecurity
Imagine you’re relaxing
How to “positive”
God, happiness, participation and transcendence
Bespoke Artisanal Handcrafted English
Sackcloth and ashes on Valentine’s Day
Your world is a reflection
The practice of love
Turning J and P on their heads
True self vs Ego
Sin and Feeling
Law of attraction vs principle of reflection
A process for personal change
Cosmic Christmas Symbolism
Myers-Briggs functions vs temperamental factors
Can you trust your feelings?
The service-provider state
MBTI and psychogenic illness
God writes straight with crooked lines
Are more guns the answer?
Why INFP = Melancholic-Phlegmatic
introverted Feeling
I just don’t feel like it
Zuckerberg: the world’s biggest dictator
To Hell with an Aussie Halloween
OCEAN follow-up: disorganised and disagreeable
OCEANs of meaning for the INFP/Melancholic-Phlegmatic
Follow your feelings?
Weinstein, ‘rape culture’, and one-punch assaults
Happiness and the motivation to change
Addiction and pornography: rediscovering virtue in the internet age
A note on interpreting old temperament material
Medieval Latin rhymes about temperament
Kant on the melancholic
A brief history of temperament
Not-love: the paradox of evil
Melancholics and inhibited body language/facial expressions
How much should we hate our enemies?
Do you make your own luck? The Landlord’s sin of pride.
Towards a spiritual psychology
Melancholics and trauma
Reflecting on love and neglect
Emotional regulation and chronic pain
Love and doubt: the central truth of existence
The Weight-Loss Paradox: paperback re-release
Vale Dr John Sarno
How I overcame ankylosing spondylitis
Want answers? Learn to ask the right questions
Perfect love and complete joy
Seven Deadly Landlord Sins
Fiction versus non-fiction: which is easier?
Consolations of a reflective landlord
People who can eat whatever they want…and not put on weight.
Why is losing weight so difficult?
The Weight-Loss Paradox – Paperback now available!
Promoting The Weight-Loss Paradox
My first non-fiction ebook!
Tripping over joy
The knight of faith against the absurd
Nondualism and working on yourself
My next book, smoked pork, fan-mail and all-consuming inner turmoil
Why are melancholics tired all the time?
Autoimmune and Myopia – parallels
Looking for answers to refine your search
The eyes have it
Miracle cures and short-sightedness
Your beliefs do shape your experience
The zone of silence: rediscovering non-fiction
Temperament Tests
Melancholic learning styles
Ups and downs and spiritual experience
Getting to the bottom of pride in practice
The antidote to Pride
The writing process: attack from all sides!
Fake news, junk knowledge, and learning to reason again
The meaning of life in fiction
Writing with the power of panic
To Create a World: another great review!
Fat, non-fiction and the philosophy of losing weight
TCAW: Corporal punishment for Goblins
My first-ever ebook review!
Are fantasy stories worth telling?
Overcoming Low Elf-esteem
To Create a World – and an ebook!
Enlightenment and Depression
Searching for Four Temperaments info?
Revisiting the ideal diet
Do you create your own reality?
Ebooks aren’t books, don’t have covers
Everyday heroism and the value of fiction
Symbolism of posture
When suffering is good for you
On being special
On knowing what you’re doing
On not knowing who you are
Saving our best advice for others
All thoughts come from the same place
There is a crack in everything
Blessed are those who mourn
On being conceited, arrogant, proud and vain.
Glory to God in the Lowest
Who practices?
Unpacking Pride
Two Birds on a Tree: different models of selflessness
When you grapple with a problem
Sickness and pride
Karma: when the past catches up with you
The self that doesn’t exist
What can you learn from the common cold?
Who is in control?
Untying knots
Regime-change in the USA
Analogies of Selflessness: Siri and Live Classical Music
How we vote: the four temperaments
Faith and works and self-delusion
Are you perfect?
Brief thoughts on Lucifer
Better to reign in hell?
What is your experience?
Pride and the delusion of self
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy vs spiritual event-horizon
What is understanding?
Acceptance: nothing changes, everything changes
On Trump’s video leak
The great denial
Acceptance: spiritual and mundane
Taking what is offered.
Dieting retrospective
The missing voices of Western chant
The use of being useless
Buddhism and Christianity: a brief convergence
Form and Formlessness
The ‘it never happened’ button
Finding your inner Trump
Are hate crimes motivated by hate?
Election ’16
Racism and homophobia
Not your grandfather’s transgenderism
Who owns the horror?
Gorillas in our midst
T comes right after LGB
Paypal gay picnic threat: a symbolic masterpiece in disguise
La Mian / Ramen noodles
How do we know what is good?
Just one look
Is morality rational?
Dharma and Natural Law
Rethinking the Is-Ought problem
I identify as underappreciated
The history of the center of the world
Intuition: a logical interlude
Who’s afraid of the MBTI?
Temperaments and the MBTI
What are you trying to prove?
Good Friday notes 2016
Exercise your demons
It’s the pride, stupid.
Melancholic resentment
Show and Tell
Remind me not to get sick in Australia
Discerning The Donald
Fiction update – so, so tired.
Fiction update: my writing timeline
Learning to forget
Fiction update
Do you like being overweight?
2015: a musical retrospective
Feast of Thomas Aquinas
Quell the appetite
Endless striving
More dieting tips
Dieting Tips
A fifth temperament?
Melancholic with Type A Personality
Have yourself an avaricious Christmas
Philosopher rejects Orthodoxy, Christianity, all religion
The paradox of “you create your own reality”
Rice wine tips
Are you really a cynic?
Celebrating the Trolley Problem
We are all rich men now
I don’t like “God”
If thine eye offend thee…
Beautiful writing
Blue cheese, rice wine, beer, pickled vegetables and glorious shelving!
Nice, Western, Consensus Buddhism
Cynical and amoral: the dark side of the mindfulness fad
Heideggerian Anti-Mosque Protest
The burden of free speech
Dtcwee’s working holiday
Pope in sheep’s clothing
Anxiety and the Melancholic: part three
C. S. Lewis’s “No Right to Happiness”
J’Accuse! Dissecting an accusatory comment
Limitations of a lustful life
Anxiety and the Melancholic: part two
Anxiety and the Melancholic: part one
A painful attitude
A PhD in Philosophy: more useful than expected!
‘Overcoming’ Auto-immune disease
Will robots take your job?
Reversion in Buddhism?
Buddhism, emptiness and pride
Metaphysics, creativity, and the tyranny of conventions
The myth of total war
MBTI and the melancholic
How to remember Hiroshima
The Moral Fallout of Hiroshima
Quid est Veritas?
You think too much
Beatitudes
So Dominican…
Saturn devours his children
Self-will gets in the Way
Brooding on breeding
Cognitive dissonance and same-sex marriage
Contemptus Mundi
Twitter devours its children
Low mood
The paradox of fiction
Is Bruce Jenner now a woman?
How not to heresy
Life without indulgent eating
Execution style
Wine time
Desire and the Dao
The melancholic posture
The ‘I’ in ‘team’
Dtcwee’s hobby is a temple
Language games
Supermarket monsters
The real price of cheap food
Has “natural” been de-natured?
What’s work for you?
Another bacon update
The Chinese version of me doesn’t do kung fu
The limits of non-fiction
The conflicted storyteller
Resurrecting old religions
Trauma and the ingratiate melancholic
Easter vigil notes
Good Friday notes
Imagine you’re a phleg
Fun with melancholics
The obligated melancholic
How much for your happiness?
The safeguard of virtue
My passive self
How to win an internet argument
The rectification of names
When is a war crime not a war crime?
On the virtues of cherry-picking
The lost vision of our ethical heritage
Yoga ethics or empty posturing
Uncommon voices
Why Catholics can’t sing
The power of smoke
Associate Editor looks askance at frozen berries
I am a great person
What ISIS really wants
Making a difference in the age of high-speed politics
Bacon comparison
Monks with guitars
My Funny Valentine
The true men of old
Eugenics and the artifice of man
Islam, terrorism, and the Westboro Baptists
Islam and violence: how stupid are we really?
Terrifying moral dilemmas
Let’s not call it bacon
60 sqm homestead
Bacon day nine
Home-made butter
A murderous blame game
The rise and fall of religious music
If only my music were popular…
Home-made bacon
Home-made soy sauce
“We cannot all be Charlie Hebdo”
The pride of life
Blaming Charlie Hebdo
Challenging Radical Islam
Provocation is no defence for the Jihadi murderers
Blame and provocation
Learn to crush your dreams
The ideal approach
Auto-Immunity: stop hitting thyself?
Home-made pasta sauce
I’m fine; like ‘fine art’ fine.
New You Resolution
Home-made bread
A suitably obscure definition of mysticism
The merits of mysticism
Home-made update
Man Ready To Hate Pope Again This Christmas
Dangerous Aussie Fauna
Who moved my brain?
Fresh home-made yogurt
Comparative mysticism at Christmas
This debauched medium
Decisions and choices
The gift of satire
Home-made rice wine
Australia’s complex multi-culture
The uselessness of a martial art
Creative dismay
Give me the spurious ephedrine
Funnelly enough
Adelaide’s Wakefield Experiment
Childhood 2.0 is a little buggy
Adelaide Feng Shui
What makes you happy?
What do you live for?
Freedom from desire
Serving two masters
Adelaide and the uncanny valley
Your money, or your life?
Adelaide Contingent
How do you make a living?
The modesty of water
What it means to be free
DadFit
The Dao of Parenting
Ba-Ba-Ba
A man of many parts-time
The end of employment and a new path
The melancholic exercise compromise
Imago Dei and the basis of human dignity
Tiny-house movement
The moral betrayal of corporate dysfunction
The pitfalls of careerism
Stress and the melancholic temperament
The nature of wealth
Other people’s minds
Home-brewed beer
“I’m confused. Does he have three houses or one?”
The awe-full truth of human dignity
Canaries in the coal-mine
Tonti-Filippini’s intellectual quest undaunted by physical pain
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The Kid Handicap
Mammon triumphs over the everyman, flaunts codpiece
I can’t handle being useful
Is it really satire though?
Anywhere but there
Home-roasted coffee
Learning Chinese the eccentric way
“In springtime the dragon is useless”
A richer life on a lower income
The vibe of ‘white genocide’
You can’t spell conspiracist without…
I’m moving to Finland, to be with my people
Not inspiring enough
‘White’ identity in a multicultural world
Discovering the New Age author within
Self-defense as an ethical ideal
Why learn a martial art?
Stoic Papa
Evolution and the Catholic Church
Violence and the masculine ideal
Critiquing masculinity
Stuck in my head
“Follow your blisters”
Indulging in satire
An intellectual journey: dodging the culture wars, thinking for myself
Reason and reality – a talk
Inefficiencies of the labour market
The Pope on evolution
Weekly dose of satire
Doing what teacher says
The ethics of management: hypocrisy
Happiness ensues…
Overcoming the mental boundary
Coherence of character
The ethics of management: honesty
More to life
The ethics of management
Finding a balance
Routine destruction of off-spec food
How Google Works
China’s Virtuous President
The greatest gift of all
Arguing on the internet
What is the sound of one hand clapping?
What does it take to be a writer?
Why I’m not on Facebook
The critical challenge of gender equality
The unfolding logic of euthanasia
iWant! iWant! iWant!
‘Success’ brings out the worst in us
The superior man needs an income
The Melancholic Emperor
Thinking beyond gender equality etiquette
If you won the lottery tomorrow…
The unexamined iphone is not worth buying
Style over substance
Rise of the management class
Joan Rivers and the price of victory
What makes an endeavour shallow?
The Disadvantages of Depth
Sexpo and University Open Days
A Scrupulous Writer
Stifling Creativity
Sickness and Eternity
Lost in the Process
Melancholic Facades and the Challenge of Sincerity
Stoicism and the Dao
The Natural Appeal of Stoicism
Vale, Robin Williams, Hollywood’s melancholy funnyman
Communicating Value
There’s No Money in That
Pigs and Fishes – Dealing with Intractable People
The Power of Sincerity
Pitfalls of the Melancholic

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