Learning to have fun
When we are fixated on solving our problems or getting what we want out of life, things can seem pretty heavy and serious.
But as our emotional set-point improves, that heavy seriousness doesn’t belong anymore.
I’m discovering as I find myself more and more frequently feeling contentment that the path forward is completely different.
It’s like spending months in painful rehab and recovery and you finally have the strength to stand and walk, and now what? Painful rehab is not the purpose of life. That was just what it felt like to regain movement and strength, but when you’ve regained them life should not continue to feel like painful rehab.
In the Abraham-Hicks teachings the way forward is enjoyment and fun. Enjoyment is an essential part of our reason for being here, and the enjoyment of life should feel like fun.
Resistance to fun?
In years of life defined by negative emotions “fun” was never a welcome answer to my problems.
People told me I should just have fun and enjoy life. But their lives didn’t look like fun to me, and my own experience of fun didn’t seem to offer any answers to my problems.
And I was right: fun was not the answer…relief was the answer.
But now I’m in this turning point where relief has to transform into something else.
It’s like working hard to get out of debt…and then what? You’ve eschewed all kinds of luxuries and enjoyments for the sake of paying off the debt; what do you do with the money now?
How can fun be the answer?
After years of fun not being the answer, now it is the answer. Because when you feel good rather than bad, you’re ready to enjoy things in life.
I guess my problem is that I’ve spent so long looking for the deep and meaningful answers to life that I’m not tuned in to the levity and lightness of real enjoyment. I even overtly rejected fun and enjoyment because meaning seemed more important.
I’m recalibrating, tuning in to fun and enjoyment as the most important aspects of my experience, looking for enjoyment with the knowledge that whatever I focus on becomes bigger in my experience.