In my approach to diet I shift the focus from losing weight to repairing my relationship with food.
But there’s another factor that often goes unmentioned and that is changing our relationship with our bodies.
Part of my original motivation was to experience being lean, and being firmly within the normal BMI range.
I was very open-minded about what that could look and feel like. And I think this open-mindedness is often forgotten.
The way my body looks and feels right now is changeable. It’s not simply about losing fat by eating less, it’s about how I envisage myself in my embodied form.
Being overweight isn’t just about excess fat, it’s an aspect of my lived experience of my body.
Can I really imagine how it would feel for my body to change? Do I know what I’m aiming for? Do I recognise that I’m entering unknown territory that may change how I feel, how I carry myself, how I dress, and how I relate to others?
It’s a big deal. And it’s not just a matter for overweight people. Everyone carries a sense or multiple senses of how they live their embodied form, how others perceive them, and how they perceive themselves.
We are shaped by habits of thought and action that often proceed unconsciously. Most of us have never really imagined ourselves being shorter, taller, leaner, heavier, older or younger. To imagine it is to begin opening our mind to other ways of being.
And what is this diet about if not finding a way of being I enjoy more? I can’t be the same person but thinner. Likewise, I don’t want to live the same life but with less food. I want a change, and that has to start with an openness to possibilities and a conviction that something good awaits.