Practicing happiness 16

I’ve been learning about attachment theory, schema therapy, and developmental trauma.

It’s all good stuff, and much of it aligns with the Abraham-Hicks teachings.

As I practice feeling better I not only get more skilled, I also uproot old habits of resistance.

There’s more to tell, but I’m feeling less need to explain it. Feeling better is a bit of a moving target, and as we surrender resistance it gets easier.

It’s very calming and grounded, after a long time of feeling intense and driven.

Nothing exciting to report, but that’s good in itself 😄

27 thoughts on “Practicing happiness 16

  1. Some view different stages of children as when problematic fixations ..depending what stage they happened..reichian theory has 7 stages..a Stephen Johnson has 7. That relate in PART to Reich’s..1.hated child 2.abandoned 3 owned 4 used 5 defeated. 6.disciplined 7 exploited

    • I like the “schema modes” idea, and can see a progression from initial hurt as a child through various stages of compensatory modes right up to (ironically) imitating the demanding/punitive caregiver.

          • I can relate to a lot of them. 3 more than 13. I find it helpful to see how certain spiritual and philosophical ideals are a match for schemas. For example, 12. Subjugation sounds a lot like spiritual ideals of detachment and dispassion.

            • I think the 18 seems relate to the 9 enneagram type..2 schema foe each type..ALL EXCEPT. W schema for each enneagram type I thi k are in a common schema DOMAIN EXCEPT forENNEGRAM 9 .

              And I think schema 3 and 13 are ENNEGRAM 9 types..I think my main ENNEGRAM type is 9 Which I think in Reich is types is schizoid .relted I. Terms of dashed hopes are enneagrams 4 and 4the 2 schema types that I thi k relate enneagram 4 are the other w in the DOMAIN with 13….Moe on enneagram 5 later maybe

                • Schemas 12 13 14 are conditional modes 12 and 14 asennegram 4s and 13 as one of the 2 ENNEGRAM 9a

                  The other 2 condtional modes ..both as2 of the 4 in DOMAIN 5

                  None pen at least an enneagram 5 PERHAPS the other too or an enneagram 1

                • Oops. Oh well hard to correct my typos on a gpad

                  One more note
                  2 domains have odd numbers of both cases I thi k the odd man out are the w enneagram 9 types..schemas 3 and 13

              • Now as to loss of hope
                9as loss of hope in self and others

                5 as loss of hope in others and to compensate seeking out inner knowledge

                4 as loss of hope in self and to compensate dwelling on emotional aspects

          • Hmm. Also I guess there is this mode cocept with schemas

            Child modes, Dysfunctional Coping modes, Dysfunctional Par-
            ent modes, and the Healthy Adult mode.

            • Then more modes under child modes

              Vulnerable Child, the Angry Child, the Impulsive/Undisciplined Child,
              and the Happy Child modes.
              And under parent modes

              The punitive Parent and the Demanding Parent.

              Hmmm wait that makes only 6 modes. At this point I think there should be 9
              PERHAPS? THE ORIGINAL 3


              • Ah got the 10 modes now
                4 child 2parent
                Then 3 the Compli-
                ant Surrenderer, the Detached Protector, and the Overcompensator

                And finally the healthy ADULT

                93rd of course I would be the healthy ADULT mode 🙂

                • Yeah so the idea is to have happy child mode providing the underlying emotional wellbeing and healthy adult mode supporting it with independence and responsibility in life

  2. As to iwjere you say the idea or conclusion is to have a happy child mode ..I don’t think that is what the holy spirit would say is the point of hope to approach the reality of life and spirit.
    3Sorrow is better than laughter,

    for a sad countenance is good for the heart.

    4The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,

    but the heart of fools is in the house of pleasure.

    5It is better to heed a wise man’s rebuke

    than to listen to the song of fools.

    6For like the crackling of thorns under the pot,

    so is the laughter of the fool. This too is futile.

    7Surely extortion turns a wise man into a fool,

    and a bribe corrupts the heart.

    8The end of a matter is better than the beginning,

    and a patient spirit is better than a proud one.

    9Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit,

    for anger settles in the lap of a fool.a

    10Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?”

    For it is unwise of you to ask about this.

    11Wisdom, like an inheritance, is good,

    and it benefits those who see the sun.

    12For wisdom, like money, is a shelter,

    and the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the life of its owner.

    13Consider the work of God:

    Who can straighten what He has bent?

    14In the day of prosperity be joyful,

    but in the day of adversity, consider this:

    God has made one of these along with the other,

    so that a man cannot discover anything that will come after him.

    The Limits of Human Wisdom

    15In my futile life I have seen both of these:

    A righteous man perishing in his righteousness,

    and a wicked man living long in his wickedness.

    16Do not be overly righteous, and do not make yourself too wise. Why should you destroy yourself? 17Do not be excessively wicked, and do not be a fool. Why should you die before your time? 18It is good to grasp the one and not let the other slip from your hand. For he who fears God will follow both warnings.b

    19Wisdom makes the wise man

    stronger than ten rulers in a city.

    20Surely there is no righteous man on earth

    who does good and never sins.

    21Do not pay attention to every word that is spoken, or you may hear your servant cursing you. 22For you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.

    23All this I tested by wisdom, saying, “I resolve to be wise.” But it was beyond me. 24What exists is out of reach and very deep. Who can fathom it?

    25I directed my mind to understand, to explore, to search out wisdom and explanations, and to understand the stupidity of wickedness and the folly of madness. 26And I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a net, and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner will be ensnared.

    27“Behold,” says the Teacher, “I have discovered this by adding one thing to another to find an explanation. 28While my soul was still searching but not finding, among a thousand I have found one upright man, but among all these I have not found a virtuous woman. 29Only this have I found: I have discovered that God made men upright, but they have sought out many schemes.”

    • Another biblical reference applical in this line of thought might be from Titus 3rd chapter
      Webster Bible Translation
      Obedience to Authorities

      1Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work, 2To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, showing all meekness to all men.

      God’s Mercy to Us

      3For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. 4But when the kindness and love of God our Savior towards man appeared, 5Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Spirit; 6Which he shed on us abundantly, through Jesus Christ our Savior; 7That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life. 8This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they who have believed in God may be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable to men.

      Avoiding Divisions

      9But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain. 10A man that is a heretic, after the first and second admonition, reject; 11Knowing that he who is such, is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned by himsel

    • Also a better understanding trials and life’ tribulations would not be a la hicks but along biblical lines

      That difficult karma givesupon refection just what might be needed for spiritual realization and not to blame self or God or the system even if doesn’t fit into hicks system

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