Your reality is a reflection of what’s going on inside you – the average of all your thoughts and attitudes.
So if it seems like your happiness is far away: be it relationships, wealth, career or anything; or if it feels like there are weighty obstacles to your desires, these obstacles and this distance are a perfect reflection of the resistance within you.
If you have doubts about a major purchase you might be tempted to make the purchase anyway. But the doubts won’t be resolved by action alone. Instead you’ll find new reflections of doubt in your fresh circumstances.
If you think you can make a relationship happen through effort despite obstacles, know that the obstacles are reflecting resistance already in you. Trying to change the circumstances will just bring the resistance out by another path.
If wealth seems always out of reach it’s not the external distance that’s the problem but the internal resistance in the form of thoughts about wealth, value, economics and so on.
Use the reflection
The good news is that we can use the reflection or manifestation to understand and ease our resistance.
If it seems like there are no jobs for people like me, or if the only jobs for which I am qualified appear soul-destroying in their awfulness, that’s just a reflection of my thoughts about money.
Someone like me doesn’t deserve easy money.
The cost of obtaining money is just too high.
Money requires sacrifice.
Yet I’ve had jobs that were objectively easy, and did I enjoy them? No. I created and focused on aspects of the jobs that kept alive the feeling of sacrifice or struggle.
If the job was easy, I spent every day fearing that I’d be called to account for not accomplishing enough.
I balanced out the easy money by feeling untenable guilt and unworthiness.
Close the gap in yourself
Instead of struggling to change the reflection or manifestation, work on resolving, soothing, or otherwise improving the thoughts you focus on.
Struggle and action will only move things around, they won’t change the underlying cause.
Whatever distance or obstacles appear in your reality, the real gap is not between your present circumstances and your desired outcome; the real gap is between your thoughts and your desires.
Work on closing that gap, simply by finding thoughts that feel better.
And when your thoughts actually change, then you’ll see that the distance doesn’t matter, obstacles don’t mean anything, and new possibilities arise without any effort on your part.