Being specific in your desires.
I’ve wanted my life to change but I’ve had only a very general idea of what that might look like.
General is good.
When you’re feeling bad you don’t want to get into specifics. Go from bad feeling specifics to bad feeling generalities. From there it’s easier to feel better and slowly get to the point of feeling good generally.
But I’ve been gradually more aware that my lack of specifics on certain subjects is indicative of where I’m at.
According to the Abraham-Hicks teachings we don’t need to get specific to get what we want. God knows all our desires and needs.
But as we get closer to being a match to those desires we will naturally find ourselves contemplating the specifics.
What are your dreams?
I spent a lot of time crushing my own dreams, in the mistaken belief that dreams are a cause of suffering because life never lives up to them.
I thought I was doing the right thing, but I actually dampened down my own inspiration and enthusiasm for life.
And naturally I was not as happy as I wanted to be.
My wife would often ask me what I like, and I’d shrug because I had spent years earnestly trying to be devoid of preferences as a way of becoming immune to suffering (didn’t work!).
Rediscovering the details
There’s a kind of rehabilitation to it, the work of rediscovering the details of your dreams and desires and rescuing them from “what does it matter?” and other cynical thoughts.
What makes this process exciting is the knowledge that these details already exist for you, and that rediscovering them is really about tuning into that aspect of yourself and your reality.
You can’t get it wrong. There’s no danger of making mistakes and choosing the wrong thing, because your preferences are already there.
For me this is especially pointed when I think about a new house, because to my mind there are so many varying styles and details of architecture and location that I appreciate, I feel like I could find the good in anything.
But finding good in anything is not the same as knowing what you most want. In fact it’s not even close!