Letting go vs highest control.
I’ve had some difficulty with meditation in the past, following all sorts of advice.
But I was listening to another Abraham-Hicks video where a woman had a similar problem, and Abraham’s response really spoke to me.
I am a very deliberate person. I like to be in control and I’m not used to “letting go”.
I’ve had a lot of success taking charge of problems and situations and questions and finding the answers by being in control.
So when meditation is presented as letting go of that…I struggle.
But that’s not the only way of looking at meditation. Meditation can be seen not as letting go of control but as utilising my highest control.
My inner being is vastly more powerful and wise than my problem-solving mind.
Or to look at it differently again, my mind is vastly more powerful and wise when it is aligned with my inner being.
It’s like in martial arts: beginners try to do everything with their arm strength alone. Punching and pulling and throwing, they copy the techniques but the power is very little because it’s limited to their arm and shoulder muscles.
But we learn over time to use the whole body in every technique, and the arms become merely the last link in the chain, conveying the much greater strength of the whole body rather than trying to do it on their own.
And in martial arts I faced the same problem: people could say “relax your arms” and for some that is enough of a cue for the rest of the body to be activated.
But I’m so used to being in control, if I relax I just get…weak arms that don’t move!
What I needed was to know that it’s not about relaxing the arms or letting go, it’s about activating and aligning with a much greater strength and a much greater control that the arms (or my mind) can then follow.
And Oh my goodness! This feeling of higher control is such a relief, now I see why people call it “letting go”!
If you’re all about control you can’t simply “let go”. You need to go to a place of higher control, and in that place the small-scale struggle and conflict just disappears.
Abraham recommends meditation not as an end in itself but because it’s the quickest way to let go of resistance. But meditation still has to be tailored to the individual because everyone has different forms of resistance in their experience.
Letting go of resistance allows our natural ease and alignment and flow to resume. And isn’t that what we’re seeking in our efforts to control things anyway?