It’s been over a year since I published The Weight-Loss Paradox: an enlightened approach to body weight and diet.
I reread the book recently and what struck me was how intense it is. It’s like a concentrated dose of all the principles and ideas that helped me lose weight and change how I was eating.
Reading it again helped me get back in that mindset, and to appreciate what an intense period of reflection it was.
Ultimately any major behavioural change requires a lot of focus and energy. What made this approach work for me?
Above all it’s about clarity – clarity of purpose and clarity of method. It’s much easier to commit to a path when you know for certain that this path is the right one.
Looking back on it, I can’t say that it’s the definitive approach and I doubt that any approach to diet and weight loss will work if you can’t find it within yourself to focus and change.
It doesn’t matter how straight the path if you refuse to walk it.
In hindsight what I would most like to explore in greater depth is the relationship between our motivation to change, and the need to find sources of happiness other than eating.
I touched on it in the book, but my own motivation was already well established by that stage. For people who are reading, rather than writing, the book – is it really enough to just look for alternative sources of pleasure and enjoyment?
I think next time around I would make this question more central, because I don’t think it’s a coincidence that eating too much goes hand-in-hand with insufficient sources of happiness and enjoyment.
Many of us think we would be happy if we lost weight, but it’s likely the other way around: we would lose weight if we were happy.
And to achieve happiness we need something more than just a change to our eating habits.
What if we made happiness central to our lives, trusting that issues like body weight and lifestyle choices would gradually shift?
After all, over-eating and being overweight are not the happiest experiences in life. As I get deeper into positive-thinking it seems obvious that we overeat partly because we don’t know how to treat ourselves better.