It’s a game…08!

In the Abraham-Hicks teaching it’s the vibration of our thoughts relative to the vibration of our inner being (God) that determines our feelings and manifest reality.

That’s why I’m running with this idea that happiness is a vibrational game.

Our inner being is always a match to the fulfilment of our desires. Our inner being is like the expanded version of our physical being, and we would be in alignment right now if we would only keep up with our desires rather than resisting them.

One thing I’m discovering is that alignment works on many levels. It’s reflexive and meta-cognitive, in the sense that I can have resistance or alignment about the subjects of resistance and alignment.

Or to make it much simpler: it doesn’t matter if you are resisting because you think “my desires are really unrealistic” or because you think “finding alignment is really difficult”. Resistance is resistance no matter what the subject, it feels bad and brings you more bad-feeling experiences.

Learning lessons

Early on in my search for meaning, I accepted the ideas that we are here in this life to “learn lessons” of a moral or spiritual nature, and that these lessons derived from a kind of moral order at work in the universe.

For me this translates into an expectation of having to face harsh truths for my own good. It’s an outlook that presumes an external moral framework much like the painful character growth in narrative fiction.

So even as I accept that I create my reality and my inner being is a match to my desires, and vibrational alignment will be reflected in the feelings I feel and the life that unfolds for me, at the same time part of me insists that it will also include tough and unwanted moral lessons that are both necessary and beneficial.

It’s an old spiritual trope that we have to embrace pain and fear and death in order to receive happiness and life and joy.

Suspicious beliefs

But I’m suspicious of these thoughts. They match a little too precisely some negative childhood experiences and attitudes I developed to make sense of unhappiness and fear.

It’s an attitude that doesn’t really serve me. And since it feels bad to me, that’s my indication that it’s out of alignment with my inner being.

There is no lesson that must be learned or sacrifice that must be made or hard personal change that must be undertaken to justify having what I desire in life.

Whoever told me that I had to earn external validation before I could have what I wanted was just suiting themselves.

I don’t need moral lessons. It’s not a moral game, it’s a vibrational game. And the thought that I have to pay a price or earn a reward or prove my worth or become worthy of my desires is resistance.

Because the whole point of our desires is that we want to feel good. What preconditions are there on feeling good? Only that we focus on things that feel good to us. Nothing else.

I don’t need anyone else’s permission to feel good; not God’s, not my family’s, not my friends, not authorities and not some vague moral principles either. Feeling good is intrinsic and it arises from our alignment with God, our inner being, unconditional grace and love.

It’s a game…07!

A friend shared with me an A-H quote on allowing as the ideal state of being to inhabit.

So I’ve been giving it a try, letting “allowing” be my response to everything.

And yeah it’s noticeable.

I’m noticing that allowing is different from my usual response to things.

I’m noticing that allowing means trusting that things will be okay.

And I’m noticing immediate changes in my daily experience as a result of my allowing attitude.

What is allowing?

In the A-H teachings, allowing means taking a receptive attitude to life, on the understanding that everything in life is coming to us in response to our vibration.

Resistance and control and effort and struggle only bring us more of those states. By allowing instead we deactivate that resistance.

The quickest way to change our experience for the better is paradoxically to stop trying to change it. Allowing is a great way to do that, to get into the receptive mode and enjoy a life that we create rather than control.

It’s a game…06!

The whole point of feeling better consistently is that we can finally arrive at a point where real love is within reach.

Genuine love for ourselves and others is something we experience when we are in alignment with our inner being, what we sometimes call God.

But feeling better is like any practiced skill. You can’t go to the heights of skill right away.

I can’t start learning the piano and immediately begin playing my favourite pieces. They are too advanced.

But I can keep improving, and if I focus on improving then eventually my favourite pieces will be the next logical step in my improvement.

So while it’s good to be inspired by advanced pieces, it’s also very helpful to focus on improvement as our daily practice and source of satisfaction. Improvement is always within reach, even when Schubert isn’t.

The same applies to “feeling better” by finding relief, and “feeling wonderful” which is a point we will inevitably arrive at by practicing feeling better.

Feel better, find relief, practice that direction and wonderful feelings are inevitably in your path.

Take satisfaction in feeling better and finding relief, and you will master it even more easily.

And relief is so powerful. It can be used on everything. So even when impatience and doubt about your path strike you, look for relief. When you beat yourself up for feeling bad, find relief. When you find past traumas cropping up, find relief. And even when you have sudden insights and clarity and moments of elation, enjoy them but don’t forget relief.

After a time you’ll see all kinds of themes and patterns at play in your life. Just don’t give up. Keep finding relief and you will grow so strong and so sure in it that you will be able to soften any discord in your path, ease the turbulence that sometimes strikes, and find your way assuredly to the feelings of inner love, joy, freedom and contentment you seek.

It’s a game…05!

There are things we want in life that sometimes seem difficult or impossible to have.

Thinking about how to get them usually leads us into a downward spiral. So Abraham-Hicks advises that we instead focus on why we want these things.

The answer is always ultimately because of how we will feel when we have the things we desire.

Having a great relationship or an amazing job would make it easier to feel good – at least at first.

But since happiness is a vibrational game, it’s not the thing that makes us happy, it’s the vibration we are focused on.

The person you want to be with doesn’t make you feel good; it’s your vibration on the subject of that person. When you think about that person/subject you activate a vibration closer to the vibration of your inner being, and so you feel good.

But you can also think about that same person or situation and activate a vibration further away from the vibration of your inner being, and that will feel bad.

And since life is about creating and expanding through our desires these good and bad feeling vibrations correspond to thoughts that allow or resist our desires.

So what to do?

It might sound a bit strange, but since happiness is a vibrational game why not find the really good feeling vibration you associate with having that relationship or getting that job, and just feel the vibration now?

That’s what Abraham-Hicks are teaching. How do you feel when you imagine being with that person? Excitement, adventure, connection, energy. How do you feel when you imagine having that job? Purposeful, creative, proud, accomplished, energised.

When you imagine it to the point of feeling it, you activate the vibration. Just practice that vibration now. It couldn’t be more simple.

It’s not the person or the job or any other condition making you feel so good. It’s the vibration. And you can have the vibration right now and in every moment and eternally.

The question is: do you want to feel that good right now? Don’t feel bad about it, but you’re probably not ready to feel that good. That’s why Abraham-Hicks advises to start with just aiming to feel better.

But when you are ready to find the vibration of the things you desire, then you can enjoy the essence of your desire in this very moment.

It’s a game…04!

Do you love life?

I didn’t. I ****ing hated it. Despised it. Resented and despaired of it.

And like most people I thought I would like life more if it would change first.

But that’s not how it works. After many years I’m beginning to love life, not because life changed, but because I finally understood that loving feels so much better than hating. And when life feels good it’s hard not to love it.

That’s a little glib, so let me break it down to practical steps.

First I learned that I create my reality through the vibration of my thoughts. My whole experience of life is a perfect match for the vibration of my thoughts.

Second I learned that I could control my focus, and deliberately focus on thoughts that feel better instead of thoughts that feel worse.

Third, after doing that for a while I discovered I could find thoughts that feel really really good, so satisfyingly good that I make time to sit down and write out those thoughts and really relish them because they feel so good. At least three times a day I’m taking time to focus on these really good-feeling thoughts.

Feeling that good regularly also overflows into the rest of life. I’m letting go of negative thoughts and circumstances…because why would I spend time focusing on thoughts that feel bad when I could be enjoying feelings of delight and eagerness and satisfaction?

Delight, eagerness, satisfaction, the more I feel these feelings the stronger and more frequent they become.

So let’s put that together: I’ve gone from being someone who hates life and feels doubly burdened by every unwanted experience and circumstance, to someone who can feel profoundly good feelings at will, and, lo and behold, I find myself beginning to love my experience, my reality, my life.

It’s not so surprising in hindsight, but I had to let go of a lot of resistance to even be open to the idea of feeling better.

And I’m not content with just feeling better…I’m not choosing blissful ignorance over harsh realities. I wouldn’t have followed this path if I hadn’t found to my own conviction that I really do create my reality.

The Abraham-Hicks teachings reconcile perfectly with my spiritual and philosophical knowledge and experience. Feeling good doesn’t just feel good, it’s also why we are here, the purpose of our existence: joy, freedom, expansion…life in its fullness.

It’s a game…03!

As I listen to and read Abraham-Hicks material it’s clearer than ever that the most important thing in any moment is feeling good.

Feeling good sounds so modest to us, like the soundtrack of a movie we’d like it to be there in the background, comfortable and pleasant while we enjoy other things.

Like clement weather, like comfortable clothes, that’s how we imagine it. And when you’re accustomed to feeling bad, comfort and clemency are pretty good.

But if you still think it’s just about feeling good enough to get on with life you’re missing the most significant, most powerful, and most satisfying essence of the teachings.

It’s possible not only to feel good but to feel wonderful. How wonderful? There’s no limit to it. Take your most satisfying, joyful, meaningful moments in life and imagine being able to feel that good every day.

It’s possible, not only is it possible but it’s the whole point of why we are here. We came here to experience joy, freedom, and expansion. The greatest joy is available to us in every moment. We are simply too accustomed to shutting ourselves off from it.

That’s why it’s so helpful to understand it as a vibrational game.

All you need to start feeling better is to find better-feeling thoughts, and there’s no ceiling to those thoughts.

You don’t have to spend your days struggling to feel it. You can feel better right now. If you pick a subject that already feels good you can even feel wonderful right now.

If you believe that you are an extension of what we call God and that the greater part of you is always enjoying the greatest love, satisfaction and delight, then you can use such thoughts to find alignment with that greater part of you and begin feeling the same joy right now.

That joy is the only reason you do anything. And you don’t have to “do” anything in order to allow joy into you. It’s only your focus on joyless resistant thoughts that keeps you apart from it.

We’ve gotten so trained into thinking life has to justify our good feelings…we think we need accomplishments or circumstances to make us feel good. But the whole time we are here, in each moment, we can turn our attention to thoughts that feel good and soften and disengage from thoughts that don’t.

Use your powerful mind to give attention to the most soothing, pleasing, satisfying thoughts you can find, and appreciate how good it feels.

Hold that thought! A vibrational shift

I wanted to share an example of vibrational shift because it’s good practice for me and might help some readers to see how I do it (but you do what works for you).

I’ve noticed a feeling of struggle, daily grind at home. I feel like there’s nothing really exciting for me or the kids to do, but plenty of unwanted tasks that have to get done.

I’m self-aware enough to know that I’ve had this attitude since I was a kid. It’s a great example of creating my reality consistently despite significant changes in my circumstances.

So instead of trying to change my circumstances, let me change how I feel, by changing my vibration.

I like to do this by finding the best-feeling thoughts available to me, and writing them out while I appreciate the feeling:

I love knowing that this is a vibrational game. I love knowing that my inner being adores where I am right now. I love knowing that all my desires are already fulfilled in vibrational reality. I love knowing that I am coming into alignment with that vibrational reality.

That’s all in A-H terms, but you can do the same in religious terms, or simply in basic emotional terms:

I love the feeling of freedom. I love the feeling of appreciation. I love feeling loved and appreciated. I love feeling ease and flow. I love knowing that everything is taken care of. I love knowing that everything is okay. I love knowing that I’m on the right path.

It’s entirely up to you what words or thoughts or ideas are most efficacious.

If I spend ten minutes focusing on these thoughts as I write them out, I feel different and that means I have successfully changed my vibrational focus.

I feel good and I acknowledge that I’m now broadcasting this much better-feeling vibration.

That’s all it takes. If we do that often enough and try to remain in that good-feeling place consistently, then life will be completely different.

The moment you stop the exercise you may find your old vibration reassert itself as you face “reality” again. But it’s actually you switching back to your old vibration that causes the negative feelings to return.

What does it take to stop the old vibration returning? Practice of the new vibration, awareness of when you’ve gone back to the old vibration, and not beating yourself up when that happens.

Just like learning to ride a bike, falling off is an inevitable part of becoming proficient.

Just like learning to play piano or touch-type – mistakes are just part of tuning yourself in to playing or typing perfectly. If you beat yourself up for every mistake you just slow down the learning process. Recognise the mistake and move in the direction you want to go.

Feel better, and when you feel worse just recognise that you’ve let your vibration slide. Write out your really good feeling thoughts and enjoy the feeling of those higher vibrations, with the intent to go deeper and stay longer each time.

For this subject of daily life feeling like a struggle, that tells me what I don’t want, and I can thereby use my exercise to focus in the direction of what I do want. This is called “pivoting”, as you find the opposite of the bad-feeling vibration.

Life is meant to be easy. Life is meant to be effortless. Everything works out for me. There’s no struggle or effort required. Ideas and inspiration spontaneously occur to me. Things just seem to work out. Things just seem to take care of themselves. There’s nothing that needs my urgent attention. There’s nothing that needs me to push or cajole it.

I create my reality. Everything comes together in response to my vibration. Everything is working out according to universal forces. Everything is a match to my vibration.

Life is easy. Life flows without struggle or effort. Life is a downstream ride. I allow things to take care of themselves. I allow things to work themselves out. I allow ease and joy into my experience. I allow love and happiness into my experience. I allow life to surprise and delight me. I allow life to enchant and satisfy me.

It’s a vibrational game!

It’s a game…02!

Since happiness is a vibrational game we should be able to simply deactivate vibrations that we don’t like and replace them with higher ones.

Abraham-Hicks teaches that our lives tend to be consistent because most of us are focused on the vibration of “what is”, in a kind of feedback loop.

Daily grind, ennui, boredom, struggle, when these are parts of your daily “what is” your attention to them keeps them active.

You’re not bored because you can’t think of anything to do; you can’t think of anything to do because you’re already vibrating boredom.

If you don’t know happiness is a vibrational game you’ll think boredom, ennui, etc have to be overcome by something external. Boredom feels like a tar pit and you have to somehow claw your way out of it even as it sticks to you.

But it’s possible to let that vibration go and focus on a higher one. If you understand that it’s a vibrational game, that you are like a vibrational broadcasting device, broadcasting whatever you are focused on, then it becomes easier to swap out the vibration of boredom or struggle for the vibration of alignment.

“It’s a game” means that there doesn’t have to be continuity of focus. Usually if we are bored or feeling struggle or ennui we have beliefs that “this is the way life is” and therefore “it will take something exceptional to change”.

But this is simply not true. Ennui is only “what is” for you because you hold that vibration so consistently. Show yourself that you can change your vibration without having to justify or account for the change.

Focus deliberately on anything that feels good to you, and appreciate that you thereby shift your vibration to something that serves you much better.

In the midst of boredom or ennui, focus deliberately on a subject that feels good. I like to write out thoughts that feel good, based on my spiritual beliefs. When I do this, I immediately activate a much higher vibration than boredom or struggle, and my reality is immediately transformed.

It’s a game…01!

I love having these series to help me stay on track and be focused, and thirty days/posts is a good number to work with a theme.

The new theme is that happiness – all of life in fact – is a vibrational game.

What matters is the vibration you’re broadcasting – not the words you’re using, not the amount of struggle you’re enduring, not the coherence of your story, not the effort you’re making.

It’s a game!!!

Your life has a story, but that story doesn’t define you. Your story, your identity, your past experience do not define you and do not determine the vibration you are offering or the energy you are tuning in to.

That’s why it’s a game: think of it as a game and there’s no reason why you can’t right now tune into a subject, and idea, and hence a vibration that feels really really good.

If life is a story then you are ruled by continuity and narrative arcs. No one likes a story where the hero just decides one day to focus on things that feel good, and their whole life changes for the better.

But if you were that hero, wouldn’t you rather just feel good and know that everything will follow your feeling?

That’s how it’s a game.

It’s not about understanding everything, or learning everything, it’s not about pleasing people or competing with people, it’s not about being good or being great; it’s only about the vibration you broadcast, and that means you can right now focus on things that feel good and let go of anything that doesn’t.

Traditional religions teach the same lesson: grace is a gift. It breaks all the “rules” we’ve established for how life operates. Enlightenment destroys karma. The Way nourishes all beings. At the core of every teaching is a direct relationship with the divine: intrinsic, unearned, and in joyful disregard of all convention and causation.

And it promises happiness, spiritual and material support and abundance, life in all its fullness if we just believe that we have received it.

That’s what all this “vibration” stuff is about. You can tell which thoughts are closer to belief because they feel better. But you can feel better in any subject and know that you are closing the gap.

That’s why it’s a game…just find a higher vibration, any good feeling thought, and let that be your focus.

Practicing happiness 30

It’s a vibrational game!

What a fitting subject for my 30th post in this series!

I am coming to understand that happiness is a vibrational game. What this means is that the vibration of your thoughts or attention matters. It’s the vibration that really counts – not the words, not the subject, not the meaning, not the context.

I’ve tried to “let go” of resistance by analysing, unpacking, and trying to shift it. But that’s not what letting go looks like.

I thought there had to be some process of unlocking, undoing, reprogramming resistant thoughts; but so long as I’m focused on those resistant thoughts, that’s the vibrational signal I’m broadcasting!

Even though it felt like progress, even though I could recount great narratives of my realisations; I was still broadcasting resistance.

That’s not letting go. Letting go is…bypassing. Letting go is changing the subject. Letting go is focusing somewhere else. Letting go is going around the obstacles in my path rather than trying to remove the obstacles.

That’s why it’s a vibrational game. All that matters is the vibration you are broadcasting and you know it by how it feels.

I love knowing that I create my reality. I love knowing that I attract everything into my experience. I love knowing that my experience and my feelings are a perfect match to what I’ve been broadcasting, and I love knowing that I can change what I broadcast. And I really really really love knowing that it’s easy to change what I’m broadcasting, I just need to focus on anything that feels good.

Like any game it takes practice to get better at it. It took me lots of practice to realise that it was a game! But now I know, and it will keep getting easier and more fun as I continue.

Every time you feel bad, switch to a thought that feels good. Spend time writing out thoughts that do feel good, and more will come. Relish the good feeling these thoughts bring you, and when you notice you’ve stopped feeling good, take the time to get back in that good feeling vibration again, and don’t beat yourself up when you fall out!